I had always thought ‘self esteem’ was important. Recently I have come to learn about – and am still learning about ‘self worth’. The two are very different things. ‘Self esteem’ is something volatile – it can swing too easily between insufficient and too much. ‘Self worth’ is something deeper and stable. It is not a product. It’s value is not negotiable with the world. It is a deep inherent birthright that we all share. Self worth is simply ‘being enough’.
Society has brain washed us into a ‘scarcity’ mentality. Lynne Twist write about this in her book – ‘The soul of money’. “For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is “I didn’t get enough sleep”. The next one is “I don’t have enough time.” Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it….”
We automatically assume that our self worth is something that can be measured. We measure it by our achievements, our ‘success’, our looks, our ‘somebodyism’, even our ‘good deeds’. The more we try to find sustenance and fulfillment this way the emptier we feel.
I will end with a quote by author Brene Brown form her book ‘Rising Strong’.
“No matter what gets done, and how much is left undone, I am enough…yes I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am brave and worthy of love and belonging.”